People who have been unfaithful in the past are far more likely to do it again, according to a new study.
The old adage ‘once a cheater, always a cheater’ has the ability to brutally tarnish your reputation in future relationships but it turns out that there is actually some science behind the saying.
That’s because, according to a new study from University College London, the more times a person cheats and subsequently lies about it, the less guilty they feel.
Published in the journal Nature Neuroscience, the test saw participants provoked into lying in order to win a cash prize.
They were shown a jar full of coins and instructed to help a partner – who was shown a blurred image of that same jar – to guess how many it contained.
One group was told that they would receive a cash prize is their partner over-estimated the number of coins, which meant that they were more likely to exaggerate or lie.
- During the tests, brain scans revealed that lying sparked a responses in the brain associated with emotions and that each time a person lied, this reaction weakened.
As such, their brains became desensitised to deceiving, and how much they were desensitised could predict how much more someone would lie the next time.
- Researchers came to the conclusion that if a cheater feels guilty about lying the first time, they are much less likely to experience the same level of regret the next time.
Here is exactly what happens after a partner spots they have been cheated on:
Esther Perel, relationship psychotherapist, describes what happens after a partner detects they have been cheated on. Perel believes that even despite the greater probability of a repeat offense, a relationship might still thrive after an affair.
Although some affairs are break-ups, others may be make-ups. In addition, the relationship, which comes out might be more sincere, much deeper, and more powerful than the one that existed in the past as partners eventually step up.
According to Perel, it is even worse for the guys. She also keeps in mind that partners ought to identify on their own the options that they’ll make as well as the repercussions thereof. Whole lives are in fact linked with a marital relationship. It’s not just the relationship in between the partners. It’s in fact economics, grandchildren, lives of children, social media networks, and more.
It’s not that she does not comprehend the magnitude of the pain from infidelity; she confesses that it is a terrible and life-changing experience for anybody. Nevertheless, Perel thinks that unfaithful isn’t the first breach in rely on any relationship; it happens long after lots of other aspects of a relationship have been overlooked. She mentions that those elements need to likewise be attended to (not just unfaithful) to bring back the relationship and it takes excessive work.