As we’ve noticed by now, not everyone is a delight to be around. This doesn’t make them a bad person necessarily; it just means that they don’t necessarily serve as a healthy influence.
- Even stating that someone is toxic can be a bit harsh; however, if a person displays behavior that has a negative impact on us in any way, it is unhealthy (toxic) for us. Quite frankly, we shouldn’t have to subject ourselves to someone else’s toxicity. Despite our tendency to want to give someone the benefit of the doubt, it’s not mandatory that we do so.
1. They Have No Compassion
One of the things that make us human is our ability to display compassion and empathy for others. However, toxic people typically lack such characteristics, meaning that they could be considered quite harmful to others.
2. They Are Always the Victim
No matter what the situation is, it is never their fault. Instead, they are the victim of circumstances and of other people. When someone in your life acts in this manner, please separate yourself immediately, as this is a major red flag.
3. They Are Bad Listeners
Something to address, quickly: it’s normal to want to think of something to say while someone else is talking. After all, nobody likes sounding “unsure” or “dumb”.
Two things: (1) trying to think of something to say when another person is speaking is not effective (2) this is not what makes somebody a bad listener.
A lack of acknowledgement, lack of response and just plain disinterest is what makes someone a bad listener. Many times, they’ll just continue talking about themselves anyways.
4. They Are Constantly Interrupting
Interrupting conversations, interrupting traffic, interrupting with their phone; these folks are constantly in “me mode” and to heck with anyone else that tries to get in their way. They’ve got better things to do than display some empathy or patience.
In seriousness, this is really annoying. It’s human nature to interject someone and apologize. It’s downright rude to be so self-centered and clueless.
5. They Can’t Admit When They Are Wrong
A toxic person has to always be right. In their mind, there is nothing wrong with them and they never make mistakes. No matter how much evidence you have to the contrary – they will always find you guilty and they will never admit to their wrongdoings.
They can even become loud and aggressive to win the argument. This is an irritating and undesirable characteristic of a person.
6. Have Really Huge Egos
Negative people really love to boast about themselves a lot, making them seem like they are way better than everyone else than they actually are. If you have recognized this about someone, this could be a major indication that they are an extremely negative human being.
They will never show pride in anyone else or anything that isn’t theirs. You do not need to associate with this behavior or person. Let them build themselves up without you, they do not need the constant boost in self-esteem from others especially if they do such a good job of doing it themselves.
7. Crave Attention
If you’ve begun to notice, or have already noticed that a negative person in your life simply loves to draw any form of attention onto themselves, then this is a huge indication that you need to remove this person from your life.
Negative people love to take the spotlight away from others just to have everyone’s eye’s on them. There is nothing they are not willing to do in order to get what they want when it comes to being the center of everything or everyone.
8. Very Disrespectful
Negative people do not have proper manners or have a proper mentality when it comes to respecting others. As stated before, negative people love to feed their ego any chance they can get and for some reason disrespecting others fuels them to be that much more horrible.
Most of the time they would rather much try to brag about themselves compared to talking about other people’s successes in life. This is a huge indication that it is time for you to remove this negative person from your life.
9. They Are Alwayse Judging Others
Ever been somewhere and heard a toxic person make a rude comment about someone in the room that they’ve never even met? It’s weird and shocking at the same time – weird because it’s so out of nowhere and shocking because 99% of people don’t do that.
But some toxic people will say they have the magical ability to innately “feel” when something is wrong with someone else. Worse yet is when they make a crack on someone else’s physical appearance.
10. They Are Physically or Emotionally Abusive
While it may seem as though this would be an obvious sign, many forgive those that hurt them. There is no excuse for such behavior, and if you have been abused physically or emotionally, it is time to go.
11. They Are Still “Cliquish”
Ever seen the movie Clueless with Alicia Silverstone? If so, it’s quickly apparent that Cher (Silverstone’s character) and their group look down on pretty much everyone. Everyone else is dirty, badly dressed or otherwise unworthy of their recognition.
There are still people who act “as if” (get it?) it’s still high school. If someone else isn’t driving the newest car, flashing the latest threads or populating the same neighborhood, they’re simply not worth the time. Toxic people consider themselves in another class that only a few, if anyone at all, deserve admittance.
12. They are judgmental
Keep your eyes and ears open for criticism—about you, what you’ve done, and what you didn’t do. It’s never about them, and they will lie if it serves them.