As others are working hard to make friends and connect with everyone they possibly can, the loner prefers to stay to themselves. And while this may seem strange to the social butterfly, it doesn’t bother the loner one bit.
- From the outside, it may appear that your loner friend is socially awkward or even lonely, however, the loner chooses to be alone. It isn’t that they feel above everyone else, or regard themselves so highly that they ignore others. Actually, they are very compassionate, and down to earth people that care a lot.
If you have a loner as a friend, you have to understand that despite the fact that they enjoy being alone in most cases, they chose you to be their friend. While it is obvious that they choose the people they have in their lives very carefully, when the loner chooses a person to have in their life, they have chosen this person above all others.
It isn’t that they don’t want friends, on the contrary, they enjoy the company of others. But, they need solitude to understand the world around them. You see, the loner is a deep thinking individual that is constantly analyzing the world around them, and solitude allows them the time to sort through the world around them.
They don’t indulge in mindless banter because they are busy sorting through the big topics.
Of course, no two loners are made exactly alike, and there are some that are more extroverted and others that are more introverted.
Extroverted loners find it easy to communicate their inner workings to other people, while the introverted loner keeps their thoughts almost entirely to themselves.
Extroverted loners find it easier to communicate their inner workings to others, while introverted loners preserve their thoughts almost completely to themselves.
- And while the extroverted type of loners is able to express what they think and feel with others, for the most part, they prefer to keep it to themselves because they are searching for authentic people. They cannot tolerate the bogus lives of the fake, so instead, they decide to look out for people with whom they share common interests. They want true and real life conversations about the meaning of life, how the world works, and not a simple gossip about the insignificant topics and happenings.
- Introverted loners, on the other hand, are having greater difficulties when surrounded by bigger groups of people. You see, such large groups of people are intimidating to loners because they are not able to maintain their focus and think clearly. Rather than focusing on their thoughts, anxiety takes over these people and it becomes difficult for them to breathe. So, more often than not, the introverted type of loners spends most of their time with themselves, and only selects certain people to include into their private world.
Unfortunately, if you are not a loner yourself, it can be rather challenging for you to truly appreciate this. Still, both types of loners are intelligent as well as genuine. And if you let them to, these unique persons will significantly enrich both your viewpoint and your life. As long as you are honest with them, and provide them with enough food for their mind and soul, they will be there for you forever, faithfully by your side as a genuine friend. However, if you cause any harm to them, or give them enough reasons to doubt your sincerity, it is possible that you will lose these people forever.
Are you a loner yourself, or know any loners in your life? If you do, we strongly recommend you share this article with them. They will gain a much better understanding of themselves and how their world works.